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tb2830
10-07-2010, 08:49 PM
i have just been asked if i would like to attend a posh wedding on the 4th sept .....by someone who i class as my best male school friend.

now as much as i would love to go i dont see him in any other way than that ....

so im worried about accepting the invite

Isafari
10-07-2010, 08:53 PM
Has he asked you as a friend or a date?

Deafjeff
10-07-2010, 08:53 PM
Maybe be honest with him?.....

tb2830
10-07-2010, 09:00 PM
Has he asked you as a friend or a date?

he just said would i like to go to the posh wedding on the 4th sept i have to let him know by the 24th july

but also it means me travelling down south for it

Skywatcher
10-07-2010, 09:01 PM
:D


It's meant to be :mental:

Isafari
10-07-2010, 09:02 PM
You say he's your best male school friend - have you gone out with him before as friends?

tb2830
10-07-2010, 09:04 PM
You say he's your best male school friend - have you gone out with him before as friends?

the last time we went out as adults was our school reunion

dont get me wrong he is a fantastic person but i could never be romantically linked with him

he's not gay but i see him as my gay friend lol if that makes sense

tb2830
10-07-2010, 09:05 PM
:D


It's meant to be :mental:

no chris

it isnt meant to be :nono:

Isafari
10-07-2010, 09:05 PM
he's not gay but i see him as my gay friend lol if that makes sense

not in the slightest!!! :lol:

tb2830
10-07-2010, 09:07 PM
not in the slightest!!! :lol:

ok he's like my brother i have no romantic feelings whatsoever for him lol

Skywatcher
10-07-2010, 09:50 PM
Can I be an usher :)

tb2830
10-07-2010, 09:53 PM
Can I be an usher :)
:thumbsdown: :slap:

Tinker
10-07-2010, 09:55 PM
perhaps he wants to show you a good time as he knows how sad you've been . I would be straight up honest with him and say you know I love you like a brother but I'm not ready for a relationship now or a friend with benefits . He may :lol: and say I just wanted a friend to go with as I didn't want to go alone .

tb2830
10-07-2010, 09:57 PM
perhaps he wants to show you a good time as he knows how sad you've been . I would be straight up honest with him and say you know I love you like a brother but I'm not ready for a relationship now or a friend with benefits . He may :lol: and say I just wanted a friend to go with as I didn't want to go alone .


yeh and he may not tinker lol

ive already decided i shall be working that saturday lol

Britchick
10-07-2010, 10:09 PM
I'll go with him, love weddings lol

tb2830
10-07-2010, 10:12 PM
I'll go with him, love weddings lol

i'll tell him lol

think he said there having a ice sculpture with vodka flowing though

Tinker
10-07-2010, 10:50 PM
oooo, just for that alone, I'd go Trace ! :lol: Methinks you think he has other intentions on his mind . :yes:

tb2830
10-07-2010, 10:56 PM
oooo, just for that alone, I'd go Trace ! :lol: Methinks you think he has other intentions on his mind . :yes:


if i thought he didnt i would go

but i dont want to go and let him think there is a chance we will get together because it just isnt going to happen

josh.p.
10-07-2010, 11:30 PM
Just tell him straight :yes: He'll probably be thinking the same as you anyway!


I have to say I was in stitches at the friends with benefits suggestion :rotfl:

tb2830
10-07-2010, 11:36 PM
Just tell him straight :yes: He'll probably be thinking the same as you anyway!


I have to say I was in stitches at the friends with benefits suggestion :rotfl:

:donald:

it might be better if i just dont go :yes:

he is a man after all lol

josh.p.
10-07-2010, 11:40 PM
If you tell him honestly his pride will take a bump but he'll be fine. (and probably glad of being saved the embarassment) :yes: Honesty is the best policy.

ukwdwnut
10-07-2010, 11:57 PM
yeh and he may not tinker lol

ive already decided i shall be working that saturday lol

cant argue with that can he, or he will be arguing with your frying pan :lol:

tb2830
11-07-2010, 12:11 AM
cant argue with that can he, or he will be arguing with your frying pan :lol:

nooooooooo

i wouldnt hit him with my frying pan lol

Skywatcher
11-07-2010, 06:16 AM
:donald:

it might be better if i just dont go :yes:

he is a man after all lol

:dozey:..........


Right well if he is a good mate of old then what you need to do is...

1 need a reason to dress up and feel good about yourself at the moment

2 tell him you are just getting out of a very difficult situation at the moment and you aren't ready for ANY sort of relationship at the moment

If he's a mate, he'll understand , you'll go and have a lovely time, and have something nice happen in your life for a change.

Don't let that prat scare you off ever going out with a male friend again.

We want photos of the ice. :)

Britchick
11-07-2010, 07:39 AM
I've been to a party where the vodka ice statues were of male and female bodies !!

Deafjeff
11-07-2010, 07:44 AM
Whatever you do always remember that ice and mouth does not go together.....

tb2830
11-07-2010, 08:26 AM
I've been to a party where the vodka ice statues were of male and female bodies !!
:jawdrop:



Whatever you do always remember that ice and mouth does not go together.....

jeff with my luck i would get stuck

Deafjeff
11-07-2010, 08:29 AM
I think anybody would :ROFL:

Britchick
11-07-2010, 08:29 AM
Can u imagine lol! I didn't partake .......only because I don't drink vodka lol

Deafjeff
11-07-2010, 08:32 AM
Unless you spray anti-freeze around your mouth......

Would that work I wonder....

tb2830
11-07-2010, 08:34 AM
Unless you spray anti-freeze around your mouth......

Would that work I wonder....

Wouldn't taste very nice thou would it

Skywatcher
11-07-2010, 08:34 AM
One of julies ' parties' again :rolleyes:

tb2830
11-07-2010, 08:36 AM
One of julies ' parties' again :rolleyes:

I'm starting to wonder what type of partys Julie goes to :donald:

mumof2
11-07-2010, 11:03 AM
oh Tracy, why not just go and have some fun? :hug2:

If you ask him to book separate rooms he'll know there's no hanky panky on the menu!

Deafjeff
11-07-2010, 11:13 AM
oh Tracy, why not just go and have some fun? :hug2:

If you ask him to book separate rooms he'll know there's no hanky panky on the menu!

I never knew that they serve hanky panky :tongue:

catrancher
11-07-2010, 01:02 PM
Hmmm... this whole discussion puts me in mind of something like this! :ROFL:


pFu7SjF7Hfg

Tom (:macwave:... well... it does!)

tb2830
11-07-2010, 01:05 PM
love it tom :donald:

mumof2
11-07-2010, 01:22 PM
ouch!

MystikPiglit
11-07-2010, 01:41 PM
Tracy, is he someone that you are constantly chatting to so he knows your situation and just wants to cheer you up? If so, accept and enjoy.

Or has this invite come completely out of the blue? If so, probably safer not to go.

Britchick
11-07-2010, 04:09 PM
I'd invite you to one of my parties but you're all too pure and innocent!

Deafjeff
11-07-2010, 04:15 PM
Moi?!

tb2830
11-07-2010, 04:17 PM
I'd invite you to one of my parties but you're all too pure and innocent!

i sure am :angel:

lisaw
11-07-2010, 04:53 PM
I'd invite you to one of my parties but you're all too pure and innocent!

I'm not! :wiggle:

lisaw
11-07-2010, 04:53 PM
Tracy I would go - just make it clear how I saw the situation :yes: Could be fun :)

mumof2
11-07-2010, 05:01 PM
:yes: oh yes Jeff, i believe hanky panky is quite popular at hotels these days! :biggrin:

Deafjeff
11-07-2010, 05:02 PM
:yes: oh yes Jeff, i believe hanky panky is quite popular at hotels these days! :biggrin:

Might have gone to the wrong hotel TUTS!

mumof2
11-07-2010, 05:03 PM
Might have gone to the wrong hotel TUTS!


yeah, me too.....! :unsure:

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:09 PM
:yes: oh yes Jeff, i believe hanky panky is quite popular at hotels these days! :biggrin:


i must of always gone to the wrong ones too :donald:

Skywatcher
11-07-2010, 05:17 PM
I'd invite you to one of my parties but you're all too pure and innocent!

I'm not bendy enough

Claire
11-07-2010, 05:17 PM
Can I get the hanky without the panky?

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:25 PM
Can I get the hanky without the panky?


not sure claire :unsure:

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:30 PM
ive texted him to find out what his intentions are :donald:

Britchick
11-07-2010, 05:31 PM
i sure am :angel:

i just spit pimms on the laptop!


I'm not! :wiggle:

i know that LOL!! wait till you see what i've got planned for your 40th!!


bromide Tracy!

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:36 PM
i just spit pimms on the laptop!



i know that LOL!! wait till you see what i've got planned for your 40th!!


bromide Tracy!


i had to google julie :donald:

i like the sound of that

Skywatcher
11-07-2010, 05:36 PM
Only put one patch on at a time :rolleyes: I have told you lot before

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:38 PM
julie and ive been a :angel: for a good while now

im turning into mother teresa :donald:

Britchick
11-07-2010, 05:48 PM
Only put one patch on at a time :rolleyes: I have told you lot before

i have a funny story about that! LOL

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:52 PM
ive had a reply :yes:

mumof2
11-07-2010, 05:55 PM
and.......

tb2830
11-07-2010, 05:58 PM
and.......

just friends :yes:

so if i do go i'll book and stay somewhere

unless anyone can give me some bromide to take just in case

Skywatcher
11-07-2010, 06:08 PM
You should totally go ( to the wedding not one of julies 'parties' )

Britchick
11-07-2010, 06:09 PM
i think Tracy is old enough to decide which parties she goes to :slap: :tongue:

mumof2
11-07-2010, 06:10 PM
well there you are then....now go girl and have some fun! :yes:

tb2830
11-07-2010, 06:14 PM
i think Tracy is old enough to decide which parties she goes to :slap: :tongue:

so julie when you hosting your next party :donald: im intrigued and have to be there

tb2830
11-07-2010, 06:24 PM
not saying im definately going yet

but ( big but) if i do this is my dress that i bought a few weeks ago

mumof2
11-07-2010, 06:44 PM
oh wow, that is gorgeous! :yes:

Isafari
11-07-2010, 06:51 PM
oh wow, that is gorgeous! :yes:

I'll second that :yes:

Britchick
11-07-2010, 06:54 PM
that's lovely!

tb2830
11-07-2010, 07:10 PM
oh wow, that is gorgeous! :yes:


I'll second that :yes:


that's lovely!

thank you :hug2:

josh.p.
11-07-2010, 08:10 PM
See! You even have a dress picked out... you *know* you want to go :yes:

tb2830
11-07-2010, 08:13 PM
See! You even have a dress picked out... you *know* you want to go :yes:
:slap: i actually bought the dress for craigs sisters wedding in september but obviously i wont be going now

daveann
11-07-2010, 09:05 PM
Love the dress and from my favorite shop too :)

Tinkfan
12-07-2010, 12:35 PM
Very pretty!!! Soooo, did you decide?

tb2830
12-07-2010, 12:45 PM
No haven't decided yet !!!!

Skywatcher
12-07-2010, 12:56 PM
not saying im definately going yet

but ( big but) if i do this is my dress that i bought a few weeks ago

YOu do not have a big but :nono: probably :D

and go woman!!! :D

free food - if you are uncomfortable you can always leave at any point its not like Colditz :lol:

tb2830
12-07-2010, 03:02 PM
Chris if I don't like it then I'm stuffed not like I can just leave and go home I will be miles from home.

Skywatcher
12-07-2010, 03:19 PM
Hun , you have to do what you think is right and what you are comfortable with but

1. you need to get out and have fun and enjoy yourself and life now

and

2. I would absolutely hate to see you becoming a recluse and staying away from your mates.

If its too much too soon then thats fine, I ain't comin down there and dragging you :lol:

mumof2
12-07-2010, 06:38 PM
Tracy my love....








STOP WORRYING! :comfort:

It's up to you sweetie...i'd say go for it and have some fun, but i also realise it may be too soon. I think you just have to make your mind up that you'll go and enjoy yourself with your friend, or not. simples!

tb2830
12-07-2010, 06:40 PM
if i thought it felt right i would go :yes:

but it doesnt :nono:

mumof2
12-07-2010, 06:41 PM
if i thought it felt right i would go :yes:

but it doesnt :nono:


what feels wrong? Is it that it's too soon, or are you worrying about his intentions?

tb2830
12-07-2010, 06:44 PM
what feels wrong? Is it that it's too soon, or are you worrying about his intentions?

i dont know :unsure:

mumof2
12-07-2010, 06:51 PM
i dont know :unsure:


hmmm, well i'd say don't panic. In my (un) professional opinion i think you may feel you are going head first into another relationship....ok, so stop right there and take a step back.

you checked with him and he said it's just as friends, try not to look any further than that. I'm sure he has nothing on his mind but taking you as a friend, as long as he knows that it's going no further than that i think you deserve a bliddy good weekend at a posh 'do'! :yes:

kazzaqld
13-07-2010, 07:44 PM
I think you should go - you've clarified with him about his intentions, and a posh do sounds lovely! And you already have the dress picked out!

I have just been invited to my DH's sister's wedding and I have nothing to wear - luckily I have till September to find something! :yes:

Wendy
14-07-2010, 09:57 AM
You still have a week to decide :hug2: think about it, weigh up the pros and cons - you know he doesn't have an ulterior motive - and then make your decision :hug2:

I'm guessing that it doesn't feel right, because it's all too soon and even though you both know it's as friends, other people will make assumptions and you will feel you have to keep explaining yourself :hug2:

You have a beautiful dress that is just screaming "wear me" and you so deserve to have fun and be happy :hug2:

Don't make a decision this week and sy no, think about it hun and then let him know your answer :hug2:

tb2830
14-07-2010, 05:39 PM
still havent made my mind up yet got a week and a half left lol

well i have sort of thought about it ....if i do go then i'll travel down on the friday and stop somewhere esle and catch up with girlfriends ....

then saturday obviously will be the wedding

sunday then will head back in the morning

Tinker
15-07-2010, 05:06 AM
just go, feel beautiful and have fun . You deserve it Tracey !

arkvilla
15-07-2010, 06:29 AM
You are probably building it all up in your head when actually you could just go, meet some new people, not mention all the stuff you have been through lately ( switch off from it for the day) and have a lovely time.

You'll probably even get to have a bit of a dance ( who can resist a dance) and the atmosphere will be very positive so I'm sure you'd have a good time

Sandra

mumof2
15-07-2010, 07:18 AM
:yeahthat: :Iagree:

josh.p.
15-07-2010, 10:34 AM
Plus... wedding food is always :Awesome: :yes: