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12-06-2011, 01:29 AM
It's taken me until now to have the strength, or perhaps courage to post this here.

Mama has died. She left us suddenly on May 30.

I've been home. We've done all the things you do when something like this happens. I stood next to my Da. I'm the oldest, you see. Her children draped the pall. Her grandchildren were her pall bearers. Her great grandchildren presented the Blessed Mother with orchids. Mama, devoted to the Blessed Mother, carried orchids when she married Da. Her priest spoke of what she meant to him; shared his sadness and loss and spoke of something that made no sense to me. I can't find any rejoicing in any of this. People I haven't seen in 40 or more years came to say goodbye. Car after car after car in the cortege. None of it makes any sense. None of it. None.

My Da is still in shock; lost. As am I.

12-06-2011, 01:50 AM
Tink, I am SO SO sorry to hear about your mum. I know you held her so dear. May she Rest in Peace sweetie. :hug2::hug2::hug2::hug2:

12-06-2011, 02:50 AM
:hug2:I am so sorry Tink, let our strength be yours. Always here when you need me Sis. How lucky you are to have had her for your mother.

12-06-2011, 03:11 AM
There are no words. You know that my heart is with you always and it is breaking for you and your family. Anything you need..please let us know. Take it one small step at a time..that is all you can do and all you should expect of yourself. Hold your family close and remember to breath.


12-06-2011, 06:07 AM
Oh Tink i am so so sorry, i am truely heartbroken for you :(

12-06-2011, 06:19 AM
Tink, I am so sorry. My heart goes out to you and your family. xx


12-06-2011, 07:06 AM
Tink I'm so sorry for your loss and heartache :sorry:

12-06-2011, 07:36 AM
Tink,so sorry for your sad news.
Thinking of you.X

12-06-2011, 08:42 AM
I'm so sad to read this Tink, losing a parent is devastating.

When I lost my dad I only coped by completely blocking it out for a while and sort of pretending he was still there.

We all cope in different ways with our loss.

All the people that came to pay their respects and show how much she meant to them.

How lucky were you to have her as your mama :hug2: and how lucky she was to have you as a daughter


12-06-2011, 08:52 AM
TINK so sorry to hear of the loss of your mum my thoughts are with you and your family at this sad time

12-06-2011, 09:54 AM
Sorry to hear the news Tink, lots of :hug2:

12-06-2011, 10:00 AM
I am truly sorry for your loss. I do wish that I had the words that would bring you comfort throughout your days and nights, but I know that is wishful thinking. My hope is that you find an inner peace. :hug2:

12-06-2011, 10:51 AM

12-06-2011, 10:56 AM
So sorry for your loss Tink :hug2:

12-06-2011, 10:56 AM
My heart is with you Tink :hug2: :hug2:

12-06-2011, 11:03 AM
So sorry for your loss Tink, thinking of you and yours :hug2::hug2:

12-06-2011, 03:14 PM
Oh Tink. :comfort: All our love and strength to you and your family.

12-06-2011, 03:46 PM
Tink, I'm so sorry for your loss. She may not be with you physically but she lives in your heart and she is with you every day.

12-06-2011, 03:48 PM
You know I'm here for you Edith, always and forever, take one step at the time my darling :hug2:

Your precious Mama will always be with you, in your memories and those of everyone that knew and loved her :hug1:

12-06-2011, 04:01 PM
Oh, Tink, I am so sorry to hear this, and I wish I could give you a hug and take away the pain. Know that you and your loved ones are in our thoughts and prayers.

12-06-2011, 04:40 PM
I'm so sorry to hear that Tink :hug2:

12-06-2011, 07:11 PM
tink, i am so sorry to hear your sad news. my thoughts are with you :hug2:

13-06-2011, 08:32 AM
Thank you everyone.

mainecoon lover
13-06-2011, 02:21 PM
I am so sorry for your loss. :hug2::hug2:

13-06-2011, 02:25 PM
Always a shoulder here if you need it.

13-06-2011, 05:13 PM
:hug2:So sorry for you Tink X Everything will seem surreal and you will be on auto pilot. It is truly devastating to lose a parent. Love and hugs to you all X

18-06-2011, 12:22 AM
Thank you. Yes, Esme, it is and I am.

27-06-2011, 08:54 PM
Love you Tink :hug2:

28-06-2011, 12:49 AM
Thank you, Mari. It's been four weeks today...

28-06-2011, 01:04 PM

28-06-2011, 01:35 PM
Tink, I'm sorry I didn't see this earlier. I am so sorry to hear about your Mom. It is never easy when you lose a parent. There is never a day that goes by that you don't think of them. I hope you are healing.


28-06-2011, 08:27 PM
Thank you Disneyfreak. No healing yet, still too caught up in the desolation of loss. Struggle for composure most days, but I'll keep moving through the days one hour at a time.