View Full Version : I'm Fuming!

18-09-2008, 03:22 PM
When i went to the hospital to see the consultant on 28th August i was told there was no waiting list and that my op would be middle of october.I had my pre op assessment there and then and my MRSA screening so i would be ready.

I was told i'd get a letter with the date of my op and a date to see the surgeon to sign the consent form.

I still haven't heard anything so i rand today to chase it up.
The secretary left a message on my answerphone to say that no date had been set yet but it would probably be some time in December:mad:

They told me October which is what i have told work and planned for.
I am not going in over Christmas or being out of action over Christmas as it's mine and the kids favourite times.Being on my own with them means they won't have Christmas if i can't do anything.

I'm so cross and really upset and she has now left the office so i can't ring her until tomorrow.


18-09-2008, 03:27 PM
Yikes! Sorry to hear about that, DB. :(


If it's elective surgery, can you schedule it after the first of the year if nothing is available sooner (not late November or December). Can you call the doctor's office back and explain the situation to the secretary? Work, single mother, children with no holiday if it's done at that time of year, etc.

If it isn't elective, let them know that it needs to be done quickly and that timing is imperative for those same reasons.

Not sure if it will make a difference, but it might! :fingers:

18-09-2008, 03:32 PM
:hug2::hug2::hug2::hug2::hug2::hug2: for you. Hope they can give you a much better date tomorrow.

18-09-2008, 03:34 PM
So sorry to hear that, DB. :hug1: I truly sympathise. Hope you get it sorted out.

18-09-2008, 03:36 PM
Awwww mate. You phone them back tomorrow and tell them about you and the kids and Christmas and you were told it would be October and all that. :hug2:

If they don't sort it out tell them you have a "connection" who will come down and tinsel their office. :evil:

18-09-2008, 03:51 PM
:mad: so sorry Teresa :hug2:

Definitely chase it - seems you have to make a fuss to get anywhere :rolleyes008:

18-09-2008, 03:52 PM
I'm just so upset as i've been building myself up to it being October.Getting more stressed now that i've got to wait even longer.

I've cancelled my diary for the rest of the year and the kids have missed out on stuff that i could have booked as i knew i couldn't take them anywhere.

I've told work so they can arrange my timetable and have organised things so the kids can still get to their clubs while i can't drive.

There's no way i'm going in in December and missing out on enjoying Christmas with the kids.

What was the point of making me spend an hour in the hospital having my pre op assessment and MRSA screening if my op isn't until the end of the year as it will be out of date.They only did it because they said i'd be in within a few weeks.

If they can't get a flippin date right how can i trust them to give me the right operation.:(

18-09-2008, 03:59 PM
Oh, Teresa, I would be mad too . Don't tell me its one month and put me through the testing and then push it back 2 months . I hope you can get this sorted soon, sweetie . :hug1: and :pixiedust: for Good Luck .

18-09-2008, 04:00 PM
sorry to hear that teresa :hug2: you know what you need dont ya :lol: a night out with meeeeeeeeeeeeeeeeee:lol:

18-09-2008, 04:06 PM
I'd be fuming too DB, that's just unacceptable - as you say what was the point of pre op tests, etc.....i really hope you get something sorted tomorrow :hug1:

18-09-2008, 04:18 PM
Teresa, so sorry to hear this sweetie. :hug2: I hope they can get you sorted out soon.

18-09-2008, 04:22 PM
:hug2: I hope this gets straightened out soon sweetie

18-09-2008, 04:27 PM
Just explain about work and that you've made arrangements for Oct and hopefully they can still schedule you :hug2::hug2::hug2:

18-09-2008, 05:07 PM
Be nice and firm and tell them your arrangements . Hope you get a good result hun. XX

18-09-2008, 05:17 PM
I'm sorry you're being put through so much stress right now! But do call and explain the situation. Hopefully they can work it out!

18-09-2008, 05:48 PM
I want my Mum and she's in Spain :cry2:

18-09-2008, 06:08 PM
Awww hun a big :hug2:from me to you, it`s sooo frustrating when you do all that organising then they tell you that :mad: :( it makes you mad, as the others have said get back on to them and just be firm :yes:
Jacqui :hug2: xxx

18-09-2008, 07:35 PM
I'm sorry to hear this matey. I sometimes wish they wouldn't give you these provisional dates because very rarely do the dates match with the eventual time your op happens. :hug1:

mainecoon lover
18-09-2008, 08:02 PM
I am so sorry to hear this and i hope you get it sorted. I must say i am not surprised. Having used the hospital service on several occasions with Beth i have seen this alot. I take nothing in stone now until i have it written in a letter to me.

18-09-2008, 08:09 PM
:( So sorry Terese :hug2: try not to get too upset .... wait until you have managed to speak to some one on the phone and explained the situation :hug2:
I really do wish you lots of luck and :pixiedust: in sorting out an October date.

18-09-2008, 10:40 PM
I'm not sure how it works there, DizneyBlonde, but perhaps when you explain to them that you've arranged everything around your stated October date they will be able to do something to accommodate that? :unsure:

Sending :pixiedust: for good luck tomorrow.

19-09-2008, 12:34 AM
So sorry to hear! Keep at it. "The squeaky wheel gets the oil." Don't give up and you may get a better time.:hug1:

19-09-2008, 07:32 AM
Just got off the phone to Consultant's secretary.

I should never have been told middle of October as there is no hope of me having my op then unless there is a cancellation which is no good for me as i need some notice for work and to arrange things for the kids.

She said my 18 week deadline was up on 25th December but i told her there was no way i could be 'out of action' over Christmas as it just wasn't fair to the kids.

At the moment all she can do is give me a provisional date for 8/1/09 which could still change if the consultant decides to go on holiday!!!

That date is ok for me as i will be ok for the Christmas season for the kids and Robyn's birthday is 7th so i would be home for that too.
It will mean that i have 2 weeks Christmas holiday from work then go straight into 3 months recovery.

I am just so annoyed that i was told one thing and arranged my life around it to be told that i would have to wait another 2 months.
I won't hear anything now until the beginning of December so i just hope that the date stays the same now as if it gets much later i will be worried about being well for our holiday.

Thanks for being there guys.XXX

19-09-2008, 09:25 AM
Awwwww! I hope you get a better date sorted soon DB!!!!!!!:(:hug2:

19-09-2008, 11:07 AM
:hug2::hug2: :fingers: That it goes ahead in January.

19-09-2008, 11:54 AM
Well, it looks like you've done the best you can with the restrictions that have been placed on the operation schedule. :hug2:

It's really no different here. My Da has been through absolute hell schedule wise for the procedures and minor surgery he has recently had to have done. He got all the way to the hospital ready for one of the surgeries, and they didn't have him on the roster, so he couldn't have it done. What a mess.

When I was there for this most recent health issue (it's complex and taking time to treat) my Da didn't even know why he was being told to go to the hospital. When we got there and they checked him in, it was for something none of us were prepared to hear. when I questioned it, they checked again (checked WHAT??) and said, oh no. That was a mistake. He got up on the floor and they STILL didn't know why he was there or what they were supposed to be doing for him. That's when I got pretty testy and said that he wasn't going anywhere (they were trying to move him to another floor for another type of procedure) until SOMEONE gave us specific information regarding the Doctor's orders and what exactly was to happen. That shook some info and sense loose...but that particular day was very trying. It didn't get any better with succesive steps in his treatment regime.

So, all that to say, it's really no different here. (Although I will say, I believe the UK system is much better organized when it comes to the actual treatment of illness). :yes:

19-09-2008, 12:18 PM
(Although I will say, I believe the UK system is much better organized when it comes to the actual treatment of illness). :yes:

Fundamentally we have an awesome health care system. Consultants however, are a law to themselves. Schedule a full day of consultations 6 months in advance and they wake up on that day and fancy a round of golf instead... :mad:

19-09-2008, 12:49 PM
How does a consultant differ from a doctor? :unsure: It it a specialist? :unsure:

I think that holds very true here, Dawn. :yes: You can have an appointment for anything and have it canceled for any number of reasons. :sigh; One of the things that drives me bonkers is the inability to make an appointment at many labs. You end up having to show up at opening and waiting and waiting and waiting... no consideration for diabetics who are fasting, children who are sick...

I've finally found a lab that will do appointments.

20-09-2008, 02:38 AM
Oh, Geez Teresa ... so sorry that they messed you up on the dates / At least they are not pushing for December . :pixiedust: that they don't try to change this again .

20-09-2008, 06:14 AM
yes Tink, a consultant is a specialist :yes:

Sorry they've messed you around DB, fingers crossed it all goes ahead after Christmas :hug2: