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foreverducky
09-10-2008, 12:47 PM
I could really use some good vibes thrown my way. Yesterday, I ended a 10 year relatonship. While I know that it was my choice and one that I needed to make for a really long time, it's still been difficult. I've had to change my number and block a number from my cell. I know in the long run that it will be for the best, but it's just hard. However even though things are not going well emotionally right now, i have I have mid-terms next week (I will need to study all weekend).

Beccaberry
09-10-2008, 12:51 PM
:pixiedust: :pixiedust: :pixiedust: :pixiedust: :pixiedust: :pixiedust:

10 years is a very long time...but if it was the right decision, it had to be done... :hug2:

MystikPiglit
09-10-2008, 12:51 PM
:hug2: Good luck.:hug2:

Taja
09-10-2008, 12:59 PM
Sorry you had to do this, Billie. :hug2: It's always hard to end a long and special relationship.

You're strong and you'll get through this. Oddly enough, midterms probably will help a bit. You'll be focused on them until next week without much time to think about the big change in your life.

Then you can focus on the changes you're making and concentrate on moving forward.

A bit of pixiedust to move things along in the direction you want--including midterms!


:pixiedust: :pixiedust: :pixiedust:

Shellyamc
09-10-2008, 01:00 PM
Lots of hugs and pixie dust heading your way right now :hug2:

The best decisions for us are often the most painful to make. You will get through it and be so much better for the trip. :p015:

lisaw
09-10-2008, 01:00 PM
Well done to you for making a hard decision :hug2:

Best of luck in those mid terms :fingers:

Disneybumble
09-10-2008, 01:04 PM
:pixiedust::pixiedust::pixiedust::pixiedust:

:hug2: Keep strong

mumof2
09-10-2008, 01:10 PM
:hug2: we're here.....

foreverducky
09-10-2008, 01:16 PM
Thanks guys. I'm hoping to stay busy.

Johnie
09-10-2008, 01:37 PM
:hug2: sorry you have to go through this but sometimes hard decisions need to be made. We're here if you need to talk!

Watchinherskip
09-10-2008, 01:48 PM
Hang in there Billie, things will get better. All for the best. Good luck with your studies.

daveann
09-10-2008, 02:08 PM
i ended a 20 year marriage begining of the year we were together for 23 years and moved to the other end of the country believe me it will get better just take one day at a time dont look to far in advance............. was the best thing i ever did i am the happiest i have ever been and now with a wonderful man who amazes me i thank my lucky stars for Dave he is wonderful but still doesnt alter the fact that it was difficult.
believe me it will get easier as the days pass :)

Claire
09-10-2008, 03:19 PM
Sending a steady stream of :pixiedust: Take each day as it comes and make time for yourself. Good luck with the mid-terms!

Debbie2
09-10-2008, 03:24 PM
loads of love and :pixiedust::pixiedust: on its way to you

Rosie0610
09-10-2008, 03:34 PM
Sending lots of :hug2: and :pixiedust: your way!!

Just remember to take care of yourself and look for something to smile about everyday.

Tink
09-10-2008, 04:05 PM
Ten years tells me that you gave it every ounce of your heart and soul to make it work. I cannot adequately express how important it is that you were able to see it was time to end a relationship of that length of time.

It's very hard, yes but so right in the long run. Every day of your life matters. Ease through these difficult ones, study yourself silly and know that we all support you and your decision. :hug2:

Mags
09-10-2008, 04:22 PM
So sorry you had to do this. Its tough and Im sure there will be tough times ahead. Stay strong and resolute and {{{hugs}}} in the coming days and months.

Margaret

Isafari
09-10-2008, 04:40 PM
:hug2: So sorry things are tough for you right now. :hug2:

foreverducky
09-10-2008, 04:45 PM
Thank you, it does mean a lot that I have you guys. I know that it will take time, but I wish that I could just fast forward. And yes, I did try very hard for it to work out and gave it all I had. But I finally decided that I should not stay in the relationship (though I was miserable) just to avoid hurting him. And from the emails and texts, I know that he is hurting greatly, which does bother me (I'm not a mean person), but I can not go back and will not go back.

Dawn
09-10-2008, 04:46 PM
:hug2:

mumof2
09-10-2008, 05:27 PM
:hug2:

kazzaqld
09-10-2008, 06:59 PM
Hugs :hug2: to you Billie, good luck with those exams! :yes:

mainecoon lover
09-10-2008, 07:29 PM
:hug2: take care of yourself hun and good luck next week.

SleepinCatz
09-10-2008, 07:53 PM
you are going to do brilliant on your midterms and will be fine our Ducky...Hang in there Billie....it will be great once this passes :)

karrie
10-10-2008, 08:20 AM
I did this at the start of a year hun, had been together a little over 10 years. Like you say although its your choice its still very hard. It does get better tho. sending you some ((hugs)) you know where we all are if you need to talk x

Grammiepo
10-10-2008, 11:52 AM
It my seem very dark for awhile, but the light will return.

foreverducky
10-10-2008, 09:47 PM
It's definitely been hard the past couple of days. Thank you everyone for your support, it does mean a lot. I have been trying to keep busy.

josh.p.
10-10-2008, 09:53 PM
Time is a great healer. :hug2:

foreverducky
10-10-2008, 09:59 PM
Yes it is josh, i just wish it went by faster at this particular moment.

Tinker
10-10-2008, 11:14 PM
Stay Strong, Billie ! You have done what is best for both of you . We are here for you . Good Luck with the mid terms . :hug2: :pixiedust:

foreverducky
10-10-2008, 11:29 PM
I have to say that I'm not a fan of the sudden crying spurts. :(

Tinker
10-10-2008, 11:57 PM
awwww, Honey !!! :hug1:

Tink
11-10-2008, 12:16 AM
:hug2: It's ok, foreverducky. :hug2: Thta's your body and heart getting rid of the toxins. :hug2:

Johnie
11-10-2008, 12:30 AM
awww honey :hug2: every relationship needs to be grieved. It'll get better it just takes time though.

BevW
11-10-2008, 12:38 AM
Lots of hugs coming your way Ducky...I'm so sorry. I totally understand where you're coming from. It's really hard no matter who ends a relationship..especially one that's lasted 10 years. Good luck to you sweetie. You know I'm here for you.

Ursula
11-10-2008, 07:00 AM
Hugs... don't know the circumstances but it was a very brave thing to do X

piglet
11-10-2008, 10:37 AM
So brave of you, things will eventually get better :hug2: :hug2: :hug2:

Grammiepo
11-10-2008, 01:26 PM
Put a smile on your face, even though for now ,you do not mean it, cause someday the smile will be real.

Taja
11-10-2008, 02:54 PM
I have to say that I'm not a fan of the sudden crying spurts. :(

:hug2:

It will get better. Your heart will heal at its own rate--and drag your body along with it at times. :rolleyes:

Just consider it preparation for moving forward and opening your heart again. :)

foreverducky
11-10-2008, 03:34 PM
Thank you! I have to start studying for another mid-term today. I am hoping to stay really busy and feel up to working out. I didn't do much yesterday, which is aggravating to me.

foreverducky
11-10-2008, 07:18 PM
I am getting emails asking over and over again, why have I done this to him?? What do I say? I have told him already that I made this decision for me and I just don't want to be in the relationship anymore.

josh.p.
11-10-2008, 08:04 PM
Honestly? I think the best ting for both parties is to add his email to your junk mail. He'll simply stress you out otherwise :( Sorry to hear he's being a pain.

foreverducky
11-10-2008, 08:21 PM
Yeah, I know, I thought so too. I guess i was trying to be nice and not cut him off completely, but that may not be the best route. You know, they don't give out handbooks on this kind of thing.

Johnie
11-10-2008, 09:00 PM
I'm not the kind of person who can be friends with ex's. In my book, they are an ex for a reason so I just stop talking to them. This is probably also for self protection, I would probably be too easily swayed by pretty words and promises.

foreverducky
14-10-2008, 03:10 PM
I am definitely not being swayed.

Have to say, I have been doing better the last day or so. I had this overwhelming feeling yesterday that I was FREE. I'm just taking it one day at a time.

Dorothy
14-10-2008, 03:21 PM
Oh honey, I know that must have been so hard for you :hug2::hug2:

You have my phone number if you need to talk :hug2:

SleepinCatz
14-10-2008, 03:22 PM
ah Ducky....Hang in there. Soon his emails will stop and he will go his own way. I agree with Josh though put his emails to the junk file. It sounds like you have already explained why so I can't imagine why he doesn't get it. The suns gonna come out and stay out for you soon :)

foreverducky
14-10-2008, 03:23 PM
Thank you Dorothy! I most definitely do and I only know one Dorothy, so there wont be any mix ups like you would get with John or say Johnie. :lol:

Dorothy
14-10-2008, 03:24 PM
Thank you Dorothy! I most definitely do and I only know one Dorothy, so there wont be any mix ups like you would get with John or say Johnie. :lol:

:gy:

foreverducky
14-10-2008, 03:25 PM
ah Ducky....Hang in there. Soon his emails will stop and he will go his own way. I agree with Josh though put his emails to the junk file. It sounds like you have already explained why so I can't imagine why he doesn't get it. The suns gonna come out and stay out for you soon :)

He doesn't want to get it. That's the problem.

Dorothy
14-10-2008, 03:27 PM
He doesn't want to get it. That's the problem.

Eventually he will, but it's going to take time honey :hug2:

foreverducky
14-10-2008, 03:35 PM
Eventually he will, but it's going to take time honey :hug2:

I know that's why I'm not trying to be a complete jerk and cut everything off.

mumof2
14-10-2008, 03:44 PM
:hug2:hang in there...

foreverducky
14-10-2008, 03:50 PM
:hug2:hang in there...

Thanks...I could definitely use that trip to Ireland right now. :p015:

Jodie
14-10-2008, 10:09 PM
Good luck with your exams :hug2:

foreverducky
14-10-2008, 11:20 PM
Speaking of exams. I got an A on my one from Monday. :D Have another tomorrow and next week.

Beccaberry
14-10-2008, 11:23 PM
Well done FD!!! Way to stay focused!!! :hug2: that things continue to move along for you...

Johnie
15-10-2008, 01:14 AM
Congrats Billie!!

mumof2
15-10-2008, 08:24 AM
Thanks...I could definitely use that trip to Ireland right now. :p015:

mmm, you sure could.... :hug2:


Speaking of exams. I got an A on my one from Monday. :D Have another tomorrow and next week.


Excellent ~ well done! :yes:

foreverducky
15-10-2008, 12:41 PM
Thanks! I haven't been able to study too much for my Statistics test today.

Tink in Pink
15-10-2008, 12:43 PM
Well done!!

Ilovesnowwhitej
15-10-2008, 10:42 PM
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foreverducky
15-10-2008, 11:04 PM
I am very thankful for my studies right now. They keep me focused and busy. I have one more test next week and have to start studying tomorrow. I think I did okay with the stats test, but I will share the results next week.

Thank you everyone for the words of support. It means a lot!

Taja
16-10-2008, 03:00 PM
I am very thankful for my studies right now. They keep me focused and busy. I have one more test next week and have to start studying tomorrow. I think I did okay with the stats test, but I will share the results next week.

Thank you everyone for the words of support. It means a lot!

Congratulations on the "A" on your first exam, Billie!

If your statistics course is anything like those I've taken (different fields, so probably some differences), you can't cram for them. You have to know the information going into the exam. It's one of those do or die classes. :sigh;

If you're feeling good about the exam, you probably did well. I have problems only when I second guess myself. :rolleyes:

Glad you're feeling better about your decision. Sometimes the transition takes a while. Hope this one is fairly short! :)

foreverducky
16-10-2008, 03:29 PM
I think it helps that I've been mentally removed for a while. It's just taken longer to actually do it.

Jazmine
16-10-2008, 03:59 PM
Hi hun you keep strong :hug2:if you know in your heart it`s the right decision then it is :yes: here if you need to talk ;)
Good luck in the exams :hug2:
Jacqui xxx

foreverducky
25-10-2008, 08:04 PM
You know I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm getting emails that are constantly asking about how can I do this to him and that he loves me no matter what i would say to him. Then he wants to be friends, but can't stop saying that he loves. I thought that with not totally disconnecting it would be easier for him to move on. Trust me, I have not given him any indication that I want to be with him. My emails are very formal. Now I just got an email that he sent flowers. Why????? That doesn't make sense, I didn't get them before. Why would he think that i want flowers. I"m going to refuse them.

foreverducky
25-10-2008, 08:05 PM
On side note got an A- on Stats test. One more grade to find out. :D

Johnie
25-10-2008, 08:14 PM
You know I'm not trying to be mean, but I'm getting emails that are constantly asking about how can I do this to him and that he loves me no matter what i would say to him. Then he wants to be friends, but can't stop saying that he loves. I thought that with not totally disconnecting it would be easier for him to move on. Trust me, I have not given him any indication that I want to be with him. My emails are very formal. Now I just got an email that he sent flowers. Why????? That doesn't make sense, I didn't get them before. Why would he think that i want flowers. I"m going to refuse them.

Well he's trying to get you back. I know it's harsh but I am a FIRM beleiver that there should be no contact with an ex. It always leads to trouble. Of course, when one has kids together that poses a problem but that's not the case here. You may just have to be forceful with him and tell him it is OVER. Do you have a male friend or relative who could help you get the point across?

SleepinCatz
25-10-2008, 08:26 PM
great news on the test scores!!!

Now for the ex....block his emails and his numbers. He is not getting the point.

dave&pauline
26-10-2008, 11:24 AM
loads of hugs for you

Wendy
26-10-2008, 12:45 PM
:hug2: :hug2: :hug2:

mgmrach
26-10-2008, 12:53 PM
:hug2::hug2::hug2:its always so hard

Claire
26-10-2008, 01:06 PM
:hug1: It might be time to hit that 'block' button Billie.

Jazmine
26-10-2008, 01:30 PM
:hug1: It might be time to hit that 'block' button Billie.

yep i agree with Claire, some people just wont let go when a relationship ends, just stay strong hun :hug2: well done on your test results, :hug2:
Jacqui xxx

foreverducky
01-11-2008, 01:02 PM
New information on this saga. I just recieved a hate email from a coworker of his. It was not pleasant to say the least. Here I am trying to keep everything civil and this is what I get. I'm upset, hurt and angered. I copied the email to him and then said that we can no longer email.

Beccaberry
01-11-2008, 01:49 PM
Good girl. No need for advice when you're doing exactly what you should be :D

All you need now is loads of support and a massive number of THESE: :hug2: :hug2: :hug1: :hug1:

mainecoon lover
01-11-2008, 01:52 PM
Sending you a hug hun :hug2:

Dorothy
01-11-2008, 01:52 PM
I think that it's about time to get a new e-mail address too honey :hug2::hug2::hug2::hug2::hug2:

Tink
01-11-2008, 01:54 PM
Just catching up here, foreverducky. :hug2: Stay strong woman. Clearly you made the right decision! :yes: :hug2:

foreverducky
01-11-2008, 01:55 PM
Thanks guys. I could so use all the hugs. I seem to hold all my stress in my chest and have noticed that a 3 ton elephant has found its way to me this morning. :(

That was an old email, so I just no longer need to use it after I get some of my contacts from it.

Tink
01-11-2008, 02:10 PM
Push it off. I'm serious. Your life is too valuable to expend any energy on idiots who try to hurt you in any way.

Physically pull it off your chest and throw it from the highest window. :hug2:

Dorothy
01-11-2008, 02:11 PM
Push it off. I'm serious. Your life is too valuable to expend any energy on idiots who try to hurt you in any way.

Physically pull it off your chest and throw it from the highest window. :hug2:

Exactly hun and then take Arthur for nice walk and look at all the pretty fall colors and then of course, it's back to getting your homework done :hug2:

Taja
01-11-2008, 02:47 PM
Good for you, Ducky! :hug2:

Now get that contacts information changed over quickly and ignore the old email address.

Then tuck Arthur into his favourite sweater or coat and take him for a nice, long walk. Even if you end up carrying him! :lol:

Tink
01-11-2008, 02:48 PM
:yes: It takes fresh air to heal all sorts of wounds. :hug2:

You and Arthur need a break. :hug2:

Johnie
01-11-2008, 02:50 PM
:hug2:

foreverducky
01-11-2008, 06:15 PM
The email address is gone forever.

Tink
01-11-2008, 06:24 PM
:yes: Good work! :yes:

foreverducky
01-11-2008, 06:26 PM
Sad to see it go, while I have been using another email, I had had this email for over 10 years. This is for the best.

SleepinCatz
01-11-2008, 06:37 PM
Good for you hun :) Many Many more hugs for you!

Claire
01-11-2008, 06:40 PM
Sad to see it go, while I have been using another email, I had had this email for over 10 years. This is for the best.

Out with the old, in with the new! Goodbye clouds of grey, hello skies of blue!

:hug1: for you FD!

Britchick
01-11-2008, 08:00 PM
sending you a big :hug2:

mumof2
02-11-2008, 10:00 AM
aw hunny I'm sorry it's turned out this way when you tried to keep it pleasant....you've made the right decision :hug2::hug2: