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MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 10:38 AM
So, a friend wants me to join Facebook so that we can keep in touch.
But, as you know, I fear technology. :shocked025:
What are the pros and cons of Facebook?
How do you contact other members?
How do you talk to people once on there?
Does it cost anything?

Any help and advice would be greatly appreciated. :hug2:

keith
23-10-2008, 11:46 AM
ok, I'm the worst person to reply. I'm not a fan of facebook.

It IS free yep.

You can talk to people in a number of ways, direct personal chat, comments on their page, email to their inbox and so on


The Pro is really its interconnectness. It's very easy for friends to find each other and recognise friends of friends, then friends of friends of friends you've met once, then colleagues you've worked with 20 years ago.. you get the idea.

Once these people are added as friends, you see their status updates and so on so you start seeing "keith has made friends with Julie" "Keith has received a message from David" and so on

I guess it bothers me in a load of ways. It's too "full on" in terms of everyone knows everyone for my liking. You CAN restrict who you share your info with and who is a friend, but you get the feeling that it's not encouraged or made easy.

Then you can get snide petty little comments on there from silly people and it's all very playgroundish (and hey, I didnt enjoy playgrounds the first time around :lol: )

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 11:56 AM
Thanks, Keith. :)
I don't see this friend often so she thinks it would be the best way to keep in touch as she's on Facebook daily.
I just have this weird 'excluded' feeling because several people have asked if I'm on there.....


It's very easy for friends to find each other and recognise friends of friends, then friends of friends of friends you've met once, then colleagues you've worked with 20 years ago..

How do you find them? Is everyone listed alphabetically/by place/school etc?:confused:



You CAN restrict who you share your info with and who is a friend, but you get the feeling that it's not encouraged or made easy.

Putting info about myself is something I'm not comfortable with either.


Then you can get snide petty little comments on there from silly people and it's all very playgroundish

Well, that's not good. :(

Rosie0610
23-10-2008, 12:07 PM
I keep getting the invites from friends to join as well but I'm just not interested. If I really wanted to talk with my friends and share things I would pick up the phone or make a date to get together. It feels like a cop-out way of knowing what's going on with close friends.

But, I an see the benefits of getting to know different people (like the many on Secrets that are on FB) through the site and finding old friends.

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 12:10 PM
If I really wanted to talk with my friends and share things I would pick up the phone or make a date to get together..

That used to be my opinion too. :p015: But I can see that, if a person has a hectic work life, contacting everyone by phone can become impossible.

Rosie0610
23-10-2008, 12:16 PM
That used to be my opinion too. :p015: But I can see that, if a person has a hectic work life, contacting everyone by phone can become impossible.

Yeah, but even an email or a text is more personal than something posted for the world to see.

keith
23-10-2008, 12:21 PM
Thanks, Keith. :)
I don't see this friend often so she thinks it would be the best way to keep in touch as she's on Facebook daily.
I just have this weird 'excluded' feeling because several people have asked if I'm on there.....

yep I understand and I think if used properly, it can keep people upto date with whats going on with their circle of friends without everyone spending individual phone time ... thing is, is THAT a good thing?



How do you find them? Is everyone listed alphabetically/by place/school etc?:confused:

You or they can search for one another by name/email address etc



Putting info about myself is something I'm not comfortable with either.


you have to be very careful with facebook because it has tie ins to other systems and does its best to find you on other places and use that information.

For example, some time ago and overnight, facebook worked out that if you had the same login details for amazon as facebook, it could login there. So if Dave ordered "how to spice up our night life" from amazon, all of daves friends saw that :eek: As you can imagine, it caused quite a stir

It led to enhanced privacy controls being introduced but it's still quite an invasive technology


Well, that's not good. :(

yeah sadly it's a reflection of the immaturity of the users rather more than the technology itself. When we started the forums, we received a load of very nasty comments from some.. intellectually limited individuals shall we say :lol: who really didn't know how to use the technology anyway. We just laughed at them but you can imagine how it could be hurtful. (Facebook are very good in removing any such comments you advise them about and they'll even ban the users involved but generally the facebook way to do things is to leave the sillyness there for everyone else to see and make their own judgements about)

So that's it really! I think facebook is just a step along the way.... email -> instant messaging -> facebook/myspace -> ???

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 12:39 PM
Thanks. :)


it can keep people upto date with whats going on with their circle of friends without everyone spending individual phone time ... thing is, is THAT a good thing?

Ummm...probably.....



you have to be very careful with facebook because it has tie ins to other systems and does its best to find you on other places and use that information.
It led to enhanced privacy controls being introduced but it's still quite an invasive technology

Yikes, that is definitely something to beware of. Thanks.



So that's it really! I think facebook is just a step along the way.... email -> instant messaging -> facebook/myspace -> ???
That's what I have been thinking.
It took me ages to jump into the world of Message Boards and now they're an essential part of my daily life. :D
So is Facebook just the next step I need to take. Or is that a leap too far? :rolleyes008:

keith
23-10-2008, 12:46 PM
That's what I have been thinking.
It took me ages to jump into the world of Message Boards and now they're an essential part of my daily life. :D
So is Facebook just the next step I need to take. Or is that a leap too far? :rolleyes008:

I think you can do it in a limited way if you're careful with the privacy options and naming.

You can try and go on there with an alias, hide everything in privacy options and only become "friends" with a close circle of most trusted people.

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 12:53 PM
You can try and go on there with an alias, hide everything in privacy options and only become "friends" with a close circle of most trusted people.

That's probably not very practical. :)

So, is anyone here a big fan of Facebook? Can you give me the pros of being on there? :)

keith
23-10-2008, 12:55 PM
That's probably not very practical. :)


It's quite practical and possible :yes: what you're doing is saying to facebook, I just want my friends to see my comments not the friends of friends of my friends. Seems pretty reasonable to me to be honest

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 01:01 PM
I just want my friends to see my comments not the friends of friends of my friends.

Ah, I see what you meant. Yes, that is just what I would want. :thumbs_up:

BigThunder
23-10-2008, 01:16 PM
I finally did a facebook after a friend kept pushing & kept telling me how amazing it is. I don't find it the least bit interesting & prefer myspace. This could also be because I'm more familiar with myspace & know what I'm doing on there. Old dog & new tricks & whatnot.

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 01:21 PM
I don't find it the least bit interesting & prefer myspace.

Thanks. :)
I don't really know anyone on myspace, apart from DS has his band on there.

BigThunder
23-10-2008, 01:24 PM
well myspace i think does have more of a rep of being a teen place & it's true, I'm sure there are millions god help us. But there are tons of people my age on there too. I set mine up at first to keep an eye on my teen daughters & then found I really enjoyed it & met a lot of fellow Disney loving adults. I used to be obsessed with changing my profile look every week, obviously something Disney related every time. Not so much anymore. The last year or so has also killed my love of myspace I'm afraid but I may get it back. All I know is facebook just didn't appeal to me but I do know lots of others who think it's fan-tab-ulous!

keith
23-10-2008, 01:27 PM
I prefer myspace too and I've found tons of Disney cast members on there from the shows and things.

There seems to be more substance to myspace versus the constant barrage of status updates on facebook

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 01:41 PM
But there are tons of people my age on there too. I set mine up at first to keep an eye on my teen daughters & then found I really enjoyed it & met a lot of fellow Disney loving adults. !

That's interesting :), I did have the impression that myspace was mainly for youngsters.


I prefer myspace too and I've found tons of Disney cast members on there from the shows and things.
There seems to be more substance to myspace versus the constant barrage of status updates on facebook

Hmmm... well maybe I'll check that out too..... :D

Debbie2
23-10-2008, 04:19 PM
I like Facebook as I find it easy to use e.g I can put photos on there easily (but haven't a clue how to so on here). 90% of my 'friends' on there are family dotted all over the UK, USA and further afield including Spain and Latvia.

I can keep in regular (daily) contact both verbal and visual with them all e.g photos after birth of new nephew/weddings etc.

So it works well for me :)

BlondTinkerbell
23-10-2008, 04:42 PM
facebook just confuses me but i have one. haha

Dawn
23-10-2008, 04:49 PM
A couple of friends I hadn't seen or heard of for years found me on Facebook. So it's good in that sense. :D

keith
23-10-2008, 04:55 PM
A couple of friends I hadn't seen or heard of for years found me on Facebook.

I had the same experience, So it's bad in that sense. :D

:lol:

MystikPiglit
23-10-2008, 05:08 PM
Thanks everyone. I think I may take the plunge..... :shocked025:

keith
23-10-2008, 05:13 PM
Thanks everyone. I think I may take the plunge..... :shocked025:

good luck Diane!!! :yes:

lexie
23-10-2008, 08:05 PM
Let us know how it goes:p015:

personally i am still trying to get used to the new facebook layout, don't facebook know i don't like change :shocked025:

kazzaqld
23-10-2008, 08:08 PM
I like Facebook - I spend entirely too much time there!

It is a great way to stay in touch with friends all round the world.

:yes:

Claire
23-10-2008, 09:07 PM
I only remember to pop in there every so often. Nothing actually happens in between visits from what I can tell!

MystikPiglit
24-10-2008, 11:32 AM
Thanks, all. I'll have a look over the weekend and let you know if I chicken out. :lol:

MarkE
24-10-2008, 01:37 PM
Just don't tell anyone anything you don't want them to know about, and you'll be fine. Those that are 'friends' with me on here will know that my page is generally for organising alcohol induced fun and then posting pictures of it!

My pet peeve about facebook is people CONSTANTLY updating their status updates with every detail of their life and feelings - mine tend to be random comments or song lyrics - I do not want to know if you've just made a cup of tea, and don't think the world cares to be brutally honest!

MystikPiglit
24-10-2008, 01:48 PM
I do not want to know if you've just made a cup of tea, and don't think the world cares to be brutally honest!

:lol: So true.

Johnie
24-10-2008, 04:27 PM
I have a Facebook page. This is how I learned about the 20 year high school reunion! I also have a myspace page. I prefer the myspace as it is easier to use I think. I can't say that I really use either one all that much though.

MystikPiglit
24-10-2008, 04:41 PM
Thanks. :) Still wavering....

Tink
24-10-2008, 05:18 PM
Not to give offense to anyone else at all, but I find facebook to be an unwelcome risk. But then, we all know how pathologically private I can be. :sorry:

MystikPiglit
24-10-2008, 05:24 PM
Not to give offense to anyone else at all, but I find facebook to be an unwelcome risk. But then, we all know how pathologically private I can be. :sorry:

That's why I haven't ventured in so far... paranoia.......:shocked025:

Tink
24-10-2008, 10:12 PM
"...it'll destroy ya'..." :lol: I'm right there with you MystikPiglit. :hug1:

Taja
24-10-2008, 10:22 PM
As usual, I'm with Tink about privacy. I don't think I'm paranoid, but I really don't want information about me floating about on the internet. It's open to everyone--including government entities, employers, current and former colleagues, and hackers who may be less than ethical...

You get the idea. If any part of your name, email address or anything that can linked to you ever appears on those sites, your privacy quite likely is nil. Not something I care to risk.

I'll stick to this and a couple of other message boards, thank you! There always are risks to using public forums, but I think there is less here than places like Facebook or MySpace. :)

MystikPiglit
25-10-2008, 10:29 AM
Thanks, Taja. That just about confirms my suspicions.....
Maybe I'll wait a while.. :unsure: