I sometimes wonder about dd's friends Mum but on the face of it she seems quite normal. She works 9 - 5 and has a catering business as well. The one thing I have noticed over the years is that she never did any 'girly' things with her dd. She didnt take her swimming, to the cinema, to the park etc. When she had a birthday party, it was dd's friend who organised it and bought all the food with her pocket money. There were none of her Mum's cakes or great food that she makes (she always said she didnt have the time). It all makes sense now as to how she felt abandoned. Im sure she was no angel but here is a girl who has been self sufficient for years and has still managed to keep it all together without any real love or guidance. I hope she can make it in this world alone. At least my dd wont let her down or forget her.