Ach. I'm sorry your car is a total loss, but honestly given the damage it sustained, best to get a new one.
I do understand about falling in love with your car though. When we had to replace our little white car we both felt terrible. Silly in some ways.
I still do not believe that given the damage his car must have sustained, that the police cannot do something more than talk with him. How flipping ridiculous is that? :(