I call it car therapy. I have always found it works with my clients and with teens too.
You have been given some good advice and links to go to - I can't add anything new but needed to let you know I'm thinking of you and Liam and will always be here
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We've talked Siobhan. I'm here when you need me.
Thank you all,each and everyone of you. The links are great , Johnie my husband has been talking to him in the car. As you say it is an eye contact thing. My poor boy is hurting so much. I can't even imagine or put myself in his parent's place.
It is comforting to come here and talk . Facebook is to public, and it feels so secure here.
He is hurting terribly, Siobhan. Not only has the omnipotence of being a teen been shattered, he's got some measure of survivor's guilt that is always a factor when someone we know commits suicide. They were friends and you can bet that Liam is thinking on some level that he could have done something different. He could NOT have, but he can't see that yet.
There is anger there too... that may come out in obvious ways, or not so obvious. Grieving is a very personal thing, and differs greatly between people.
Try to keep him engaged and interested which is a feat in itself.
Take some time for yourselves too, you and Mr. Bumble. It's tough stuff having a teen, and having one go through what Liam is experiencing makes it even tougher.
Take care Siobhan. Worried for you.
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You're safe here sweetheart, and we're always here. To think of what Liam is feeling - it's too much for you to bear, for your little boy....well it's just too heartbreaking.
I'm so so sorry for all you're going through, please call me when you want to, ok?
My heart breaks for your son, when I was about the same age a group of us ( about 10 ) did everything together. When your that age you truly don't see the consequences of your actions can be permanent. 4 of our group were killed in a car accident after a church youth dance. Of course speed and alcohol were involved. The grief and loss takes a long time to work through, they seem alright then something sets all the emotions off again. I still think of them 35 years later. My parents were of the old school that the less said the better, I hope that you will be able to keep the communication going with your son during this very difficult time.
for you and for Liam too. Poor kid.