i would definately ask her why, now, there must be a reason, and on your birthday too....dont see the reasoning behind that one tbh
Originally Posted by ukwdwnut, post: 24993
nope nor me
sometimes arent things best left unsaid ??? i wouldnt of done it to her
i find myself questioning certain events now and what if that was one of them i feel like my life now has question marks all over it and what should of been decent memories just add to my nightmare
omg yeah she should have kept her gob shut, i feel if she wanted you to know, then tell you when it happened, dont you think?
listen trace just forget about it ok, you have nothing to do with him now, the only tie is your beautiful kids so concentrate on them and forget him totally, i know its easy for me to say but i think its the thing to do, dont you.....anyway BIG for you....and you know your friends are there for you if you need to talk :D
Personally? I wouldn't pursue it with her. It's done, the trust has been fractured and there may be no return to the closeness you thought you once shared. You can choose to have her as a friendly acquaintance or not. It's up to you.
One of the more difficult things in the dissolution of a long term relationship are the side effects. :sigh; This feels like a side effect to me, and as such would be best moved away from.
At the risk of sounding really harsh, you need to focus on yourself now. Totally and completely yourself (with regard to all adult relationships) and if you are not completely comfortable in all aspects of any adult relationship, then move the necessary distance from it. Some relationships you will be able to maintain at arm's length, others you'll have to move away from completely. Just be certain to focus on what YOU need now. It's about time, eh?
your right tink perhaps its best if i didnt know anything esle
and yes its all about ME from now on and whats best for ME