My husband and I have had our two male cats for around 3 years now. We got them within a couple months of each other, and because they have always been inside only cats (and because of our financial situation) we have been unable to get them neutered until now.
We have had it pretty rough financially starting out as a young couple, and then as newlyweds, and all last year we were living in a one-room efficiency apartment that used to be a hotel room, so even when the cats did sort of start to spray, all we could really do is clean up after them and keep trucking.
My husband has recently been made a general manager at an Arby's in my hometown, allowing us to move back and be closer to my family and giving us the most financial stability we've had in 3 years since we were both in college. It's been a huge blessing and we are now living in a very lovely apartment that I do not want my cats to destroy.
Basically, the move was sort of rough on the kitties (we were moving into another state, after all) and they had already started getting a little aggressive before we moved, but we chalked a lot of it up to them being contained to such a small area, and thought that when we got into a bigger place and had more room to move around, things would improve a bit.
Well, we moved, and my older cat got REALLY aggressive. Like, attacking the littler one whenever he encountered him. It got so bad we had to close one of them in the bathroom at night until we could the older one fixed. Now, he is fixed, and his temperament has changed back to the happy, friendly cat he always used to be, but whenever he goes up to his brother, the little one freaks out. He makes this growling sound and if the older one gets too close, he gets attacked, when all he wants is to make up with his brother. I understand that it's just because the younger one has been burned so many times, but I really hope once we get him fixed as well (which we're hoping to do before the end of the month) that things will go back to normal for the two of them.
Does anyone have any experience with this kind of thing? Any advice or tips on how to get things moving smoothly again? It's been very stressful on me, as I am home all day with them, and I keep having to run around the house when I hear the growling sound to make sure one is not about to attack. It's killing my nerves and my heart because they were always such great friends! Any insight (or prayers, as silly as that might seem for this kind of thing) would be very very appreciated.