In some respects, it's a bit too bad that Disney does take so much planning. If you don't know what you are doing, you won't know what to do. That is so true, isn't it?
For those who refuse to ask, or listen, perhaps a well chosen guide book would be a good gift? I know when we first started going, I bought a couple and they were really helpful.
Heck, even knowing how to move around the parks is beneficial. There are members of Herself's Family (her Mother for one) who have been for so many years that they refuse to accept the changes. Her Mother CONSTANTLY complains that they couldn't find anywhere to eat, when visiting with out of town guests. We've told her zillions of times that Disney has changed and you really need an ADR for park restaurants... but nope, she won't do it.
I tend to go overboard and dominate any Disney conversation, so I've learned to keep my mouth shut now. It's not quite the same here though, as most people don't go to stay over, as they are local. There are a few Disney freaks at work, like me and we tend to talk amongst ourselves.
It's a pricey vacation, so I don't know why someone wouldn't want to be well prepared. I do with any vacation I go on. I'm researching the area, the options, the restaurants, the recommended places to visit... all of it.
All we can do is help where the help is wanted.