Very true, that is a gift. Think it should be that way. Kids have to work it out for themselves. My DD Alex was up in the air about Obama. One of her best friends was a total McCain fan. He took the loss hard.
When I was having a "discussion" with all my friends while sitting around the Peaks of Otter, she was upset with the tone, and felt sad that we were in such disagreement. I always feel like I have to defend my positions to them as they can be a bit snarky. She loves to come to my defense and wanted to get involved but backed away.